I started on this business 10 years ago. I was very naive. In many ways. I never used to argue with anyone. I hardly even spoke my opinion. I was such a moron, it doesn’t surprise me that I did the impossible in my first six months of work: I proceeded to shit where I ate. I had a fling with my partner.
I won’t go into the details – he made sure he did, any and every bit of thing I ever said and DID, with all our co workers – but I’ll just say that that was the single most dumb thing I have ever done. First of all, now some men that I worked with know everything about me that is very personal, and I hate that. My privacy was blown away in pieces. To this day, those guys call me up and laugh about some things he said. I get mortified every damn single time.
But that’s not all. When we fought (and we did, a lot), we couldn’t work together. At all. I even tried to open the designs and screw around with them, because I was so mad at him. I got very distracted as well. Many a times my boss came in and screamed at us to get back to work.
So, when I decided to end it (he was screwing the secretary as well, that dumb ass), I promised myself I would not shit where I eat, ever again. Hey, it’s not that I don’t think you can find true love where you work – I strongly believe that work buddies sometime can evolve to a perfect relationship, even marriage because I’ve seen it. But not all the time.
I’ve seen men get so angry at women they work and screw with, they decided to sabotage each other’s job. I’ve seen work be delayed because of this. This is just wrong, coming from one that did all that and many things more.
If you ever, ever, get to glance some way and find your partner, co worker, boss, vegetable or imaginary friend... Dudes and dudettes, think about it. It might be fun for a while. It might be a nightmare forever.