"I heard that she left her job because she couldn't handle the yada yada". "I saw her with this guy a couple of weeks ago". "Oh no, she's nailing this other guy". "She is like that because this and that". "I heard that blah blah and she did this other blah blah". Yup. Some people love to talk about me until they are blue in the face.
My life is a mystery and some gossip folks seem to love trying to get to the nitty gritty of it. The thing is? They are not having any luck at all. Why? Knowing about my personal life is like time travel. Impossible to achieve, but interesting to theorize about it. Am I lacking some trust? Nope. I just think that my life is like this blog. I choose to do whatever I please with it and if someone doesn't like it, well, so be it. I am not apoligizing for any of it, and I will never stop doing what I do because someone tells me that I shouldn't. I know what I am doing and not a single soul needs to know about it. When I feel it's time to share whatever, I will on my own terms.
But the point of this all is that, in spite that I don't tell a soul of what's happening in my personal life (well, only one or two gals know but they have endured years of asking and getting zilch), everyone seems to love gossiping about me. Do I care? No way! I am a very strong person who really could care less about what others say about me. But... recently I have seen people who are not that strong get nailed by other people's loud mouths. And THAT bothers me.
Gossiping is a way of life at ad agencies. It's like air for some, if they don't have it they will crumble up and wither away. They love to chit chat about who's nailing who, who got drunk and did that, who made that bad choice... But... do they really know what's happening? Is that their business to discuss anyhow? No! People should live their own lifes and leave the rest to what they are doing. How many people can actually point a finger before realizing that in some parts of their own lifes they did something questionable themselves? What if what is wrong for some people is not wrong for others? Who gets to decipher what is right and what is wrong?
In my ad life I have encountered many people who have told me gossip about others where I work. This guy is married and he banged the secretary. This chick dated almost all of the art directors. That guy married because his wife needed a green card. So the fuck what? What's it to you? Why won't you gossip about the time that you put on some make-up and banged your dog? That is a truly juicy detail, and I don't see you sharing it with me, right, douchebag?
The worst is when people start thinking that all they hear is fact, and then good people get treated badly. Look, if someone out there is doing something wrong in your book, then by all means, you have the right to think about it. But that doesn't mean that you have a license to talk about it because, bingo, it's not happening to you. You don't actually know what is happening in closed doors, and most of all, even if you knew, well it's not of your damn business. And just remember that gossip can bite you in the ass someday, and all the attention will be redirected back at 'cha.
And me? Oh well. I'd love to tell you hot, juicy stuff about me. But then? I'd have to kill you.
4 comments:
I've always wondered just exactly what type of gossip has been going around because of me, not because I'm self conscious or worry about who might think what. I could honestly care less but I've heard such creative things from me ever since my high school years, that I just can't help but wonder what new bullshit is being attributed to me.
Let's see... if the rumors i've found out about me are true, I've been gay, been in a foursome, cheated on every girl I've been with, laundered money, milked a male goat orally, had phone sex with the boss, fucked someone ten years older than me, fucked someone ten years younger than me, cheated on my taxes, eaten a live feturs, fathered three children, jerked off to german porn and thrown a fight for the money.
What makes me chuckle is all the bad karma some people are willing to throw around just because they can't look in the mirror without gagging. IT's also hilarious to see the truth smash into their faces. Honestly, i share various aspects of my life with various people, but the nitty gritty chunks of raw joker, that I keep to myself, my girlfriend and two or three friends at the most.
Regardless, as per usual, I will go my way and ignore any naysayers that may be more creative in what they about me than any job they might have on their desk.
cheers
Where I live, gossip is a way of life, entertaiment. It's gotten to the point where gossip is more credible than the news!
People who gossip do so because they feel they get the attention they need, and, since they are so empty on the inside, get the sensation that they are "experts" on whatever matter they're gossiping about.
Is not just what people gossip about you. It's also how it affects people around you (family, friends) when they hear all those rumors.
But I LOVE gossip! It's the greatest - makes the days much more interesting! He who claims to not be interested/pay attention to/at least listen to gossip are LIARS! I love it, love it, love it.
Our whole agency is into it. One person does/says something controversial/embarrassing/compromising, etc. and the entire agency knows.
But it's all good - we're like bro's and sisters, so nothing evil ever really comes from it... but it's still fun!
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